Loneliness In Big Cities?

Why are the most lonely people on this planet found in BIG cities like New York or Chicago, etc?

Public Comments

1. because they are not happy with them self so if they go where to population is higher they will feel as if they are not alone! because everyone there feels alone yet until you can enjoy your own company you will continue to feel alone with or without a partner!
2. Most likely because their career or dreams took them to those big places in the first place. Away from their family and friends. Moving away It's allot harder then people think ! I tried it once only to end up coming back home...
3. I think the reason is that big cities tend to feel impersonal. There are so many more people that no one can keep up with everyone and so it's easy to get lost or overlooked. You don't get any of the stuff like a waitress who knows your name or a crossing guard who worries if she doesn't see you a couple days in a row. Also, people in big cities don't seem to practice as much friendliness to strangers. They're either in too much of a hurry, or they're exasperated by the crowds or their own stresses, or they just have the mentality of "I don't need to be nice if I won't ever see you again." When strangers are friendly to me, I feel less lonely, so I'd assume that in big cities, that's lacking. I think you're right. It's harder to be lonely in a smaller, close-knit town or community. But I'm sure there are ways to find companionship and friendship in big cities, just probably have to try harder, and try not to succumb to the lonliness.
4. People in big cities tend to become alienated, i.e. feeling of powerlessness, the feeling that one's destiny is not under one's own control. Marx, in his theory of alienation, the history of increasing control of man over nature = increasing alienation of man. A condition which men are dominated by forces of their own creation, which confront them as alien powers. For more information, you can read up more at en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alienation www.britannica.com/eb/article-9005729/alienation www2.pfeiffer.edu/~Idifener/DSS/Marx/MARXW3.HTML
5. If you are in the bigger cities then you can blend in and no one will notice you. When I am depressed I just want to be by myself.
6. Ummmmm wouldn't that be because there are MORE PEOPLE?
7. "Statistics proves that the amount of lonely people is higher in big cities: the life in a megalopolis separates people. It is a well-known fact that majority of megalopolis citizens are migrants from other parts of the country; there are just few natives who live in megalopolises from generation to generation." “Paradoxically, loneliness frequently occurs in heavily populated cities; in these cities many people feel utterly alone and cut off, even when surrounded by throngs of other people. They experience a loss of identifiable community in an anonymous crowd. It is unclear whether loneliness is a condition aggravated by high population density itself, or simply part of the human condition brought on by this social milieu.” (Wikipedia on Loneliness)
8. It is the way their life is, and how their social ability is. Not the area, on where they live.
9. Because in big cities you need to always fit in. Most people who move to a big city have a hard time fitting in and are ridiculed and therefore are lonely because no one wants to be with them.
10. Because there is no time for interpersonal relationships. Big cities are expensive and most people work 2 or 3 jobs and that leaves them with no time for one on one relationships. Kind of sad but that is life in the Big City. I think that may be the reason so many people come to work in the city and have their homes in the suburbs where you can ask your neighbor to watch your house or carpool to get the kids to soccer practice.....
11. People often get lost in crowds. It's worst in large cities because families are so spread out due to the sprawl of the city. People are not as connected to each other on a day to day basis in very large cities.